I have been staying in Kathmandu at the volunteer dormitory for the mountain fund NGO: I found this place through the AAC. I like the place as I eat with the family and I learn a lot about Nepal through talking with the founders, one of which is American. During a recent school holiday I met their "daughter": she is 8 and top of her class, she likes math and science the most (yay!), and her father has passed and her mother has been working abroad for 2 years now with no particular plan to come back. So, yes, they have semi-adopted this beautiful child, and I love them for it!
Recently I had a discussion with his wife about the "real" Nepal, after I told her the Everest trek feels like Disneyland vs wilderness, and how I felt almost discouraged from experiencing "local". She invited me to their NGO's farm after my annapurna trek, where they have been working to address women's empowerment (is this a trip theme?) via cash crop production, improved education, child care, etc so the town's women can work while their husbands, if they have them, are away seeking city employment.
I wondered if this was "real" Nepal, or just "country" Nepal. Doesn't transforming the Himalaya into a theme park speak about the nature of a people? Or is this a reflection of the nature of westerners on vacation, encouraging pizzas and western toilets and beer in places where porters and yaks carry in every can and I'm still not sure who carries them out. When I posed this thought I was told that 80% of Nepalese are farmers, hence the "real" of the farm.
Between both Ladakh and Nepal you see a rural vs urban pull, a tourist vs a local economy, and, in mountain trekking, a willingness to cater to tourist comforts rather than have tourists experience the centuries-old cuisine, toilets, and general lean, efficient living that has sustained mountain cultures long before tourists came. Ladakh feels much more authentic, but I worry time and western money will transform thupka into pizza and powdered drinks into bottled ones.
So, back to the question, what is the "real"? I don't want to sound like an elitist westerner, claiming the real is a farm with no internet, traditional garb, barefoot children, wood-fired stoves filling kitchens with smoke. The real isn't living in the past, but dynamic. From what I can see, it's transforming a mountain farming economy into a hotel and restaurant business, it's everyone having a mobile phone, it's women seeking to empower themselves, and it's parents sending their kids to orphanages because the education is better in a foreign-run orphanage vs a government school. Perhaps the real of a culture is defined in how the people respond to change, how they seek the best life for themselves and their children, how they share and give and care for each other, or not.
One question is how can we as tourists encourage a more sustainable and culturally-sensitive approach to development in trekking towns, knowing people will strive to achieve the best life they can?
And, the homework question: what is the "real" America?